About Yourself

Hey Ladies (and gents)! I hope you’re here because you believe you can be Hotter Than Porn and want to know how to make that happen. If you don’t, give this post a read, and return with any questions or concerns.

Today we’re going to be talking about you. I’m assuming you’re a woman in a heterosexual relationship. Don’t worry – if that’s not you, there will be stuff on the blog that will also apply to you. And this post might be kind of fun ;)

But before we talk about you, we have to talk about someone else.

Your Man

Think about your man. Think about what attracts you to him. Think about how he makes you feel. Do you love him? I hope you do. Both for your sake and the sake of your love life. Both of you deserve to be loved with no reservations. I’m going to tell you something about your man that you might not realize. Remember how much you love him? Cherish him? Well, this should have no impact on those feelings. You love the whole him.

Let’s assume you’re married. It doesn’t really matter, but I’m in control of the story here. Let’s say you’re 30 and have been married for 5 years. Congrats! Over the last 5 years, how often do you figure you have intercourse? Maybe twice weekly? Ok. And how long does it usually last? Let’s just make it easy and say 30 minutes. That means you’re having an hour of intercourse a week, or 52 hour a year, or 260 hours over the course of your marriage. That ain’t bad!

Let’s assume your husband is also 30. Does he masturbate? I bet he does. I bet he masturbates something like 5 times a week. Some of those are going to be quickies, but let’s say he takes 6 minutes to finish, on average (again, to make it easy). That means he’s masturbating 30 minutes a week, 26 hours a year, and 130 hours over the last 5 years. Oh wait – he’s probably been masturbating much longer than that. Let’s keep it simple and say that he’s been masturbating since he was 15. That’s 390 hours. Add that 390 to the 260 he’s getting with you, and we get 650 hours of sexual experience.

I know this is getting kind of weird. It’s crazy to think of anyone jerking off for 390 hours. But here’s my point: unless you have some sexual experience on the side, he has somewhere in between 2x to 3x as much sexual experience as you. He probably knows his cock, balls, and other erogenous zones like, well, like the back (or front) of his hand.

You Need to Get to Know Yourself

If you want to have crazy, mind-blowing, Hotter Than Porn sex, you need to get to know yourself at least as well as your husband knows himself. Maybe you masturbate. Good. I encourage you to do it more. Daily, if you can. Don't worry - we'll work up to it.

What if you’re not comfortable masturbating? What if you’ve been taught that it’s wrong? That it’s a sinful, lustful behavior? It’s okay. We are all taught different things. But we can also learn different things and make our own choices. For example, I choose to believe that the female body is capable of immense sexual pleasure. I believe that females have a much greater capability for sex than males. Think of all your erogenous zones: your breasts, thighs, vagina, clitoris, G Spot, anus, mouth, feet, hands. You are both much more complicated and much more fun than any man.

I believe that God made you this way for a reason. I believe he mad you Hotter Than Porn. But, like most of God’s gifts, your ability to be sexual needs work. It needs practice. Getting to know your body is no different than working out or reading a book. You’re learning new skills that are essential to life. Stay tuned for some tips in future posts.

You Need to Talk

You know what’s also awkward? Getting a girl undressed and having no idea how to please her. I mean, I know how to please women: go down, be patient, let her cum first. But everyone is different. How do I please you? Even if you know yourself, if talking about sex is awkward or distasteful to you, you’ve probably talked about it with your partner. And if you aren’t talking, I guarantee you’re missing out on a lot of fantastic sex.

Let him know how he pleases you. Teach him your love language. Guide him as you experiment and try new things. Create with him a safe environment where you can tell him your fears, your hopes, and what you want your love life to be. Talk about porn. Ask him if it turns him on and don’t judge him by his response. Let him know you love him and figure out what role, if any, porn has in your relationship. Let him know that you are, and want to be, Hotter Than Porn. I promise you he wouldn’t miss it for all the porn in the world.

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