Why This Blog?

Welcome! I'm sure you're wondering what you're doing here, huh? Maybe a bit sheepish? Don't worry - everything and anything goes in this space.

No, this isn't a porn site. Well not really. I'll talk about porn. I'm not for-porn or anti-porn - it exists. Porn is part of the human sexual experience, and I believe that relegating it to the dark corners of the internet (which isn't really a corner anymore) causes more problems than it solves. So let's look at it. Let's not be afraid. Let's make our love lives better for it. Let's be Hotter Than Porn.

How it all started

For whatever reason, I've seen a lot of facebook posts about porn lately. Oh, right, I know the reason: Fifty Shades of Grey! Thank goodness for E.L. James and Anastasia Steele, huh? Anastasia Steele is a terrific porn name, by the way.

Anyway, I'm reading these anti-pornography posts, largely from women, that describe porn as an evil that will destroy you life, marriage, relationship, ability to get an erection, etc., etc. I don't necessarily disagree with any of it at all - in fact, the stuff about erections scares the $@&% out of me. But that's the thing - porn shouldn't be scary. It's not something to be afraid of. I don't care if you hate it, but to deny its existence or deny that someone you know very well is looking at it, is just naïve. If you have a problem with it, fine, but be smart about fixing it.

Nobody on facebook was writing about what porn actually is. In fact, I don't think many of the people reposting articles have had an experience with porn. Again, I'm neither for or against porn, but if you're gonna fight it, you might wanna figure out a better strategy than facebook. Learn about it and see how you can be Hotter Than Porn.

Why am I reading this?

I saw lots of posts from women concerned about how porn might ruin their relationships with their boyfriend/husband. I get it. It's natural. You should totally feel frustrated, angry, jealous, betrayed, abused, whatever. You deserve to feel. You do. So take a minute. Or a few minutes. But remember: there is life after porn. So if your hubby has been wacking off to some bimbo with fake boobs, react! Overreact! But when the reaction ends and you have to figure out how to deal with the mess, this blog is for you.

Or maybe you're on the other end of the spectrum. Maybe you like porn. Maybe ya love it. Maybe it gets you off. How does that make you feel? Guilty? Naughty? Ashamed? Again, you deserve to feel. But you don't have to let porn control you. You can control it, and maybe even be Hotter Than Porn.

This blog is for you, ladies

I really don't want to be patronizing (the title to this section probably didn't help, but maybe it got your attention?). I don't want to pander to you. I want to give it to you straight. Men and women are drawn to porn for a reason. I'm a man who watches porn. Go ahead - curse at me, leave nasty comments, whatever. I can take it. But you're gonna want to keep reading this blog because I'm going to show you - from a man's perspective - what porn is all about. I'm tearing down the curtain and revealing the wizard. And you know what? Just like the movie, the wizard isn't all that scary. He's just a little old man with some big charades. You can be better than that. You can be Hotter Than Porn.

A WARNING: Stuff on this blog is going to get a little explicit. For those of you uncomfortable with that, it's perfectly fine. I'll try to give you fair warning and stuff. But in my opinion - a very unqualified opinion perhaps - you can't really be Hotter Than Porn if you don't know what you're up against. Which is a great segue into my next post. Enjoy!

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